Saturday, August 5, 2017

Life With Two

The thought of adding a second baby to our family terrified me.

I spent most of my pregnancy wondering if we'd made a giant mistake. It was too soon. They'd be too close together. I was too old. My back hurt too much. I didn't want to go through the pain and hassle of breastfeeding for another year. We'd ruin Jack.

Even the first week or so we were home from the hospital, I had these same thoughts. Jack had a bit of a rough time adjusting right away. We were tired and not on top of our parenting game, so we didn't always deal with his tantrums the best. I was hormonal, sore from surgery, exhausted, convinced I wasn't going to bond with Milo (we had a rough hospital stay), and again I worried that this whole second baby thing was a mistake. Or at least poorly timed.

But then there are days like this. Moments like these. Jack knows that Milo doesn't always like tummy time, so Jack lies on his tummy next to Milo and gives him an encouraging pep talk.

And in these moments I think we're going to be okay.


  1. You have no idea how much I needed to read this right now. Having a rough time with some terrible twos right now and am constantly second guessing the decision to have another. I'm terrified. So very glad I'm not alone in these feelings.

  2. OMG. The pep talk is so precious. Reading this is making me question if I'm making a mistake by only having ONE!

    1. I sometimes think the same thing but the other day when I went to pick Bowen up from daycare, I picked up another little boy in the class and Bowen loudly pointed and said "NOOO NOOO NOOO" haha I was like well guess he doesn't want a sibling!

  3. They are so cute together!! I am sure not every day goes smoothly but as they get older I am sure they will have such a good time together.

  4. Is that the cutest thing or what!?? Love it!!! I regularly question if I'm ruining my children, lol. I think that's probably a fairly common parenting thing, regardless of how many children we have. I love their names together. Jack and Milo. So cute!

  5. Hey! Congratulations! I've been a terrible blogger and am almost as bad about catching up on blogs I love...been thinking about you and knowing you must have had your second. Love his name! There are so many emotions adjusting to two...but moments like those are certainly a beautiful thing!